I imagine a lot of first time parents are feeling like I do right now – there’s so much to learn before baby’s arrival. It’s not that I’m completely baby-inept. I know the basics. I have quite a large family (it feels like there’s always a baby around!), and my own Mum was a childminder for many years and I fondly remember helping to look after a 4-month old baby she looked after (who incidentally, had his 17th birthday this week! Crazy). But I’ve never been the decision maker when it comes to a baby before. I’ve never had this amount of responsibility.
And, like most people, I want to try and do it as ‘right’ as I can.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t believe that there is one ‘right’ way to parent and I’m certainly trying not to put pressures on myself to be the perfect parent right away. But I want to know I’m trying my best and for me, that means being well informed so I feel confident in making all the millions of decisions that are to come. So onto the parenting research I go…
Perhaps I’m slightly hankering after my University days, where I spent most of my time researching various theatre history periods, pouring over textbooks, journals and articles, as I’m approaching my parenting research in pretty much the same way – using a variety of sources from a range of angles and perspectives, always considering reliability. Who knew that term taking the historiography module would come to rear it’s head when facing the challenge of becoming a parent? You see folks, the skills learned in most degrees ARE transferable including a theatre degree – hurrah!
So, at the very start of my research journey, here’s my plan:
- I’ve identified two contrasting parenting styles: routine-regimented based, and baby-led based
- I’ve bought The New Contented Little Baby Book: The Secret to Calm and Confident Parenting by Gina Ford to read up on routine-based parenting
- I’m looking to buy The Attachment Parenting Book (Sears Parenting Library) by William and Martha Sears to cover baby-led parenting
- Start off by looking into these two contrasting books to see how I feel about both and find out more about where I ‘naturally’ sit or feel aligned to.
And then take it from there…
I’m sure I’ll be updating on the things I learn, agree with, disagree with, feel baffled by as time goes on. My parenting research begins.
If you’re already a parent and can recommend me a book that I might find interesting – please do! Drop me a comment and let me know what book or books you think are essential or interesting reads. I’m all ears (or eyes) at this stage. And thank you in advance.